|My Mom and I at a Regina Spektor Concert at the Greek Theatre|
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|My Mom and I at a Regina Spektor Concert at the Greek Theatre|
Welcome to part 3 of the Cupcake Warriorettes blog theme of simply: "staying cool under performance pressure." Before we jump in, I honestly struggled with writing this last blog. Recently I slipped into a whirlwind of constant busyness and felt caught up in the daily rounds of life, including computer glitches, non-stop telecoaching, and taking my daughter Grace (15 years of age) to more auditions and rehearsals than she's had in a while. Just because I effortlessly know how to meditate and practice momfulness doesn't mean that I don't deal with the daily rollercoaster of ups and downs. The only difference is that I choose to make art and practice "mindful breathing" when things are falling apart. Centering our spinning tea cup mind in our everyday lives can empower us to experience "Let's be zen, I am zen"; (a mantra I heard whispered from a teenage friend of Grace's when she was nervous about performing, and I also heard Hayden Panettiere repeat "I am zen" to re-focus on her television show, Nashville). I was thrilled to watch the self supporting power of this mantra "I am zen" help these ladies to move into the eye of the storm.
FunZen is how Grace describes making concentration fun to focus, and flow to find her "sweet spot". What has helped her can also empower anyone curious about tapping into their joyful way of play to stay out of their way. How we deal with the success stress of so much on our plate, yet still handling those inevitable emotional storms of frustration and rejection with divine redirection is possible for you too. Having the right approach, magic mood tools, and application is key. With this blog, you have access to courageously "Keep Calm and Sparkle On" confidently in the hustle and bustle of today's frantic pace. Remember, we got this, we're all in this together, and the best control is self control or effortless command of our body soul instrument.
As mentioned in the last 2 blogs, I asked both Cupcake Wars winners: Stephanie Sparkles, and Jane-Marie Kane, for an interview with a few emails and phone chats. Stephanie strongly supported the idea of empowering our kids and parents to dream big and follow their hearts to taste bliss. What I noted and was inspired to share in this blog with loving non judgmental observation, is how overwhelmed and time pressured Stephanie sounded over the phone. However, I dutifully respect (Brava) both of these ladies commitment to the goals they've set and accomplished for themselves. I wholeheartedly believe that we can not only work hard and smart, but have ARTitude by keeping the art in smART, so we remain balanced with our foundation- roots of love and discipline yet lighthearted with wings of compassion and creativity.
The worrier to warrior approach for me was staying zencouraged instead of discouraged with so many unmet promises by both Stephanie and Jane-Marie, promising "I'll call you back, or email you to set up our interview." No matter what, I re-focused on the soul-ution, not the problem, reminding myself that this situation is happening for me, through me, not to me like a victim.
Remember, happiness neutralizes guilt, which means, everyday, randomly take a little sweet relief soul time to love yourself up by; taking a mindful breath, gingerly taking a sip of tea, drinking some delicious coffee, gazing at the sky, a flower, stars, and smiling for no reason. These simple acts zenergize our mind-body connection and polish our miracle diamond of mindfulness.Being non-resistant helped me creatively handle the situation assertively by coming up with my spiritual law clause which simply honors our freedom of choice. I expressed this clause idea to a baker at Jane Marie's, Cake Dreams, who picked up the phone when I called back for my interview with Jane Marie. Our interview was cancelled at the very last minute. I calmly expressed, "we have a choice or free will to say 'No' without feeling guilty, and say 'YES' to more time to focus on what matters to us." My conversation ended harmoniously with the baker, who seemed to have an Aha moment. The "freedom of choice" clause inspiration was borrowed from the book title by Patti Breitman and Connie Hatch, "How to Say No without Feeling Guilty and Yes...", it was introduced in the first blog 'Cupcake Warriorettes' of this short series. At the time, repeating that book title sent an empowering message to my nervous system to activate pivoting from a worrier to warrior on the spot.
Aha Tweet Tweets: When @PanacheDesai sent a magical tweet to @zenmommie which appeared out of blue 2/19, his compassion awakened in my heart; only love rooted in the Divine can help us heal and realign with our authenticity or in his words "soul signature". From direct experience of his "the guru is you" zen approach, I sense that he sends a vibration that feels like a kiss reminding us to follow our bliss. That late night his tweet helped me remember this insight, if you think someone let you down, what made you think they were holding you up.
Watching Panache with Oprah(click) on Super Soul Sunday, I was reminded of my enchanting mindful play sessions with Jani labeled "The Schizophrenic Child". Oprah came to my house on a Sunday in August 2009 to interview Jani.
Here's the daisy chain link ☞blog, I was encouraged to write about \my unforgettable learning experience. Zenjoy! What's Next: My worrier to warrior turnaround experience with "Pixar's Brave" cupcake warriorette winner Jane Marie, and her mother Michele Kenno. Introducing tweetheart, friend, Intuitive Healer, @JenuineHealing, her work is similar to Panache in helping people activate their connection to the Divine. She shares her secret recipe for shining brilliantly no matter what. Jen gave me awesome self healing tips for recovery after the storm with the Schofield's and more girls just wanna focus, flow and have fun surprises...Click Here to order my Clear Your Mind Manual "Mental Fitness" Foreword by Leonard Cohen, endorsed by Louise Hay, Dan Millman, Iyanla Vanzant, Penny Peirce, Michael Beckwith, O.C. Smith, Richard Carlson and many more...In Gratitude w/Love and Lady Bug Hugs ❤ FunZen Girls OX Michiko (lil mama) and GraceContact: (805) 490-2391Twitter: @Zenmommie Email: @firstname.lastname@example.org
“The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.” Brené Brown, Quotes ☞☞☞ Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and LeadTruth be told, this blog has been under beautification construction since our first interview with Kim Thurman, who won with her assistant Kim Aeck, Season 2, Episode: L.A. Auto Show, on Food Network's popular "Cupcake Wars" TV show. The show aired in Jan. 2011 and Grace spoke with Kim in early April 2011. We've gathered a few more cupcake wars winners, and other awesome warriors reaching for excellence in their chosen fields of interests.
Like flower petals falling one by one, we've been growing, glowing with the flow, and giving back generously in other areas of life. For me, it's been about fine-tuning a short series of books about this topic of choosing to be a worrier or warrior for all ages. Also, Grace started high school at CHAMPS Charter Highschool of performing arts, which she loves after being homeschooled with our FunZen socratic method for 8 years. She is also focusing on her passion, music, at the School of Rock. Without further ado, this Cupcake Warriorettes blog is driven by our singular purpose to inspire and empower our girls, (boys too) to shift from a worrier to warrior, thus becoming heroes of their journeys.
Our beginner's mind, zen approach, is to share playful yet practical tools to capture out of the blues, clues to encourage you to passionately and effortlessly use what you already have, common sense wisdom, and imagination, to guide you in fulfilling your wishes. Seeing yourself as a compassionate warrior will help you stay in the saddle to realize your true potential and live your dreams.
As a lifelong learning coach, I wholeheartedly embrace the keep it simple, short and sweet to get on pointe. When I heard these wise loving words from Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, addressed to Deepak Chopra, my heart deeply resonated; "The truth is simple, Make it clear. Let it stand on it's own, and don't get lost in complications." So, instead of mucking up my inspirational soul recipes with too many steps, I am focused on the simple essence of coaching people to experience inner peace (in-her peace) and mindfulness to radiate pure joy. From a zen perspective, learning to love ourselves comes down to self acceptance, honoring the light of beauty, brilliance and boldness in our souls.
We ask only one question, how do you handle performance pressure or anxiety during the daily grind? Consider, Dr. Wayne Dyer's wise words; When you squeeze an orange you get orange juice because that's whats inside. The very same principal is about you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, what comes out is whats inside. And if you don't like what's inside you can change it by changing your thoughts."For this much anticipated blog series, we're delighted to share wisdom tips, for going from stress to bliss, anxiety to serenity, and gloom to bloom. We've included juicy sound bites from a brilliant psychologist, famous illustrator, an international bestselling author, legendary martial artist, successful entrepreneur mum, a beautiful actress, attorney, celebrity mum, plus more awesome heroes from life's arena of worriers to warriors.
Here's a delicious FunZen min. sound bite from Grace's interview with Kim Thurman
Season 2 Winners , Kim Thurman and Assistant: Kim Aeck Episode: L.A. Auto Show
When I stepped into "Bake You Happy" it was love at first sight. I saw my fav British saying; "Keep Calm, Have a Cupcake" and tingling good vibes followed. Grace and I saw that both Kim's had great teamwork for the dream to work both on and off camera.
|U.C.L.A. Cupcake Princess: Dorothy Tong and |
Deann Chan, Season 2
Episode: Hard Rock
Cupcake Wars winner and princess warrioress Dorothy Tong, Founder of Cupcake and Cookie... was an utter delight to connect-up with, I called once, sent an email asking for her comment, and in true royal fashion she demonstrated how she handles performance pressure, effortlessly with the lovely combination of two spiritual backbone ingredients; Hard-work and Enthusiasm.
"To handle performance pressure, I prepare myself for the event by practicing the activity (such as baking, dancing, speaking, etc) until I am so familiar with the motions I can do them in my sleep. My personality actually thrives under pressure, so I use that adrenaline as fuel to perform. Also, I found that it is helpful to know what your weaknesses are specifically to the event you are performing, and to be able to avoid them. For example, my weakness on timed tests is that I spend too much time on the early problems and then I am unable to finish the test. Knowing this, when I go into a timed test I make sure that I do not spend too much time on the early questions and do not let myself spend more time on a problem unless I have finished the entire test and then can go back and work on the previous problems."
Jennica Braddock and her Mom Crystal Schaffner, Episode: Tony Hawk, Season 4 winnerOut of the blue, as the name suggests "Dreamy Creations...", Cupcake Wars Winner's logo was printed on what looked like a food truck, and jumped out at me, when I was driving in Northridge Ca. At first, I thought, just keep going, it's probably an address on the truck, I won't recognize. Out of Stillness, I noticed that the address on the cupcake truck was close by. I gave myself a mini zen tune up with a centered breath and posture check. Then I walked into the Cupcake Cafe, following my heart and trusting my hara (gut), to ask my "worrier to warrior" question. Jenica was smiling behind the counter, like a ray of light bursting through a cloud of doubt flowing through my mind. She radiated that "Girls just wanna have fun" on fire spirit, it was obvious that she was a cupcake warriorette and knew about focusing and flowing forward through battle rounds on and off camera.
Jenica fired up her fearless faith and set a stellar example for all of us; to feed our vision with hope, love, and courage. Hope is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, no matter what. This is the dreams come true warrior spirit ingredient Jenica shared with me and uses with her "Dreamy Creations" inspiring all of us to follow and trust our hearts by taking action.I asked my utterly brilliant twitter friend, Author, Dr Ben Michaelis... to give me a hand, and share how he personally handles performance pressure. Not only did he answer this question eloquently, he has an awesome new book "Your Next Big Thing" to dip your inner paint brush into for hot tips, cool tools, and creative strategies to play in the NOW, happily and successfully. Here's a sample of Ben's dream fuel in 3 words "Keep On Going."
Also, check out his amazing article on not just surviving with stress and anxiety but thriving, and "Shaking off the Grind" to glide and feel more blessed, no matter what. http://t.co/jlEqzCeF
"I always begin to handle performance pressure by first practicing whatever it is I need to present/perform, then letting go by grounding myself in the now. I check in with my five senses -- especially the olfactory sense -- our most powerful sense, which can ground us in the present. Then I focus on my breath."
My mentor/friend, best-selling author Dan Millman 's spirited presence in words whether through talking on the phone, in person, or reading his books has touched me deeply with reverence and humility. Once he sent me a fax in the late nineties (remember those?) and expressed that it was a "pleasure to speak with a fellow artist-athlete" these simple words, restore my hope, help, and humor and bring me inner harmony to this day. Most recently, I bravely asked @pwDan to share how he handles performance pressure. His response left me wonderstruck for a bit, leaving me hushed, with a let it be feeling of inner stillness. Grateful to jump back in to bake up some successilious sweet treats. Zenjoy his warrior spirit of a clear mind, peaceful heart. ❤ PeacefulWarrior movie clip
"My only answer to the question you pose below is: What performance pressure? Do you mean performance pleasure? The way I handle performance is to perform — not just on a stage or in front of an audience or camera, but moment to moment. Every moment is a chance to perform, to function, to do whatever I'm doing as well as I can. I fail to reach my ideals nearly always, but that's okay, too. I don't aim for success or for victory; I only aim for excellence in the moment. There is no pressure in the moment."
What's next: 2 amazing ABC Shark Tank mompreneur winners, my twitter friend, stress expert, Lori Lite, @StressFreeKids will share her magic mood tool for family fun, and staying stress free like a deeply rooted tree. And more...don't miss my life learned b-lesson from illustrator, Mary Engelbreit. ♡